Miriam / Uganda
“My Story & Experience as a Lesbian”
“Am called Miriam and am 25 years of age, Am a lesbian. I realized that I am lesbian when I was in my O level because I used to have feelings for my fellow girls. When I finished my A level during my vacation, my parents realized or got to know that am a lesbian because they used to hear rumors from people and they used to see my partner visiting me. When they asked me I denied so what they did, my brother got me his friend to be my boyfriend I did not like it but I accepted and started to pretend just to take away what they heard about me because I still wanted my family and to study.
Time came when my so called boyfriend wanted sex and I refused, I played him around all the time when he asked for it or when he brought up that topic until he got tired and he went and told my brother about it. My brother went and told my other family members and this is when I started experiencing hell on earth. When my results came back I had performed well but they refused to pay my tuition at the university so I had to tell them the truth about my feelings for the same sex.
What they did they organized a family meeting to device ways of making me straight and I come out of that horrible behavior. The family decided to organize a collective rape and I did not know about it, they wanted it to look as if it was done by other people. They did not want me to know that it’s them who had organized it.My brother was the ring leader and my mother did not know about this because she was always on my side. I was raped and the bad thing I got pregnant but I thank God that I was not infected with HIV. They got to know that I was pregnant and they knew that I will abort so what they did my brother took me to my uncles place because if I stayed home my mother would help me abort because she was not in support of it. My uncle made sure I do not leave home until I gave birth.
I gave birth to twins and so they thought they had cured me. My partner was there for me and she supported me very much during this period until I gave birth. She would come at my uncles place to visit me and bring for me something’s to use so after giving birth, one day my brother found her at my uncles place she had come to visit me, my brother told them that I was still a lesbian she told them that me and my girlfriend still see each other. They confronted me and asked me whether am still lesbian and I told them point blank that I will never have feelings for men and I will never love men. I told them I have someone I love and she loves me too.
They decided to dis own me and they threw me out of the house and told me to leave with my kids. They said that am a bad omen to the family. I don’t know the father of my babies but I love them very much though one of them is asthmatic and this scares me a lot, I did not manage to finish my education and yet I passed my exams well.”
Miriam’s story was original published on Kuchu Times – Bombastic Magazine
74 comments on ““My Story as a Lesbian””
Am not a lesbian
But I wish to be one
Miriam…be strong in urself….na only u come this world leave ur life and hope on god…forget dem modafuckers would always be modafuckers
I am a lesbian too
Stay strong sweetheart
I’m marveled at ur strength and bravery!Just 4get about ur family,dey don’t know u ar a precious gem,just know I love u
OHH NOOO… THIS STORY MAKES ME CRY. i AM A LESBIAN, AND i HAVE BEEN DAITING MY GIRLFRIEND FOR ONE YEAR ALREADY. bUT i KEEP IT AS A SECRET. i AM AFRAID TO COME OUT AND I DON’T HAVE THE COURAGE TO LET MY FAMILY KNOWS WHO i REALLY AM.
yOU WERE SO BRAVE miriam! i WISH i AM BRAVE LIKE YOU.
Im also a lesbian who lives korea in korea we have so much ethical issue i found out that I’m a lesbian whe. I’m 16 years i have feelings for my fellow girls like you when im 17 i go to USA for my studies i met a girl who is like me we have sex and every kind of stuffs in america i enjoyed the lesbian sex and when i came back to korea i got a boyfriend because my friends told me to do so i have sex with him its kind good because its fun and gave me a good pleasure but i always have feelings for my girls yesterday we met again and now im lying in my bed with her fully naked
so sad about your story
..be strong dear
Stay strong dear 💪🏳️🌈
am also a lesbian
I am a lesbian to.it hurts becaise i have to wake up every morng and pretend to live a life of a fourteen year old teenage girl who’s life is full of drama and boyfriends and after the day is over i cry in my sheets because am to afraid to tell my parents and sisters the truth of who i really am.i have tried telling my sister but i find myself speechless because if i tell her she will tell my mum and that won’t be good for me because my mum thinks lesbianism is related to satanic practices.i just wish i could tell my sister or anyone else😭😭😭😭.
Im so moved by story got to know about the page late but its okay im also a lesbian who still live a life thats not mine and never had a girlfriEnd because where i come from lesbian are not openly know i kn one day i live a life i deserve
i wish i could be your friend , i feel you so much, be strong gorgeous! hope happiness will be surround you , be safe and healthy , gbu
im 14 yrs iold n im leasbuan buh my famnily does not know n i wonder if they find out what will happen buh ker stay strong bbe gal
So im also a lesbian but m to scare to share with my family 😔 and i like that story ❤
I don’t know if things are different with you now or not but I just want you to know I feel the same way
Love you too
I love you
Love you too
I’m a lesbian nd i’m crushing on you
Same happened to me. She said it was just hormonal imbalance that she went to far with me. She left me when she got engaged…… I want to hate her but I don’t…..
Can any human could do such a terrible thing to other . It’s her desire and we should respect to their own requirements of life all over the world talking humanity and preaching all religions differently goodness but everywhere spreading badness without error all fake TEACHINGs
stay strong dear and do u !!!
I can empathise with her, I am different(I am Two Spirit). I am not confused or non-committal to becoming 3woman(Gender Reassignment). I am also attracted to women only. That makes it difficult to those who don’t understand(and that is a lot of the LGBQT or Rainbow Community. I know ‘who i am and that is a big probelm from those ignorant peoples.’
I’m also a lesbian.. And my partner have a daughter .. But i love them most… But… I’m scared when my parents know about it… They will show too much bad reacts..
Stay and stand firm ….ppl will one day accept our love same sex life okay!!
People are so fucked up Who the heck organises a gang rape for their kid or sister that’s so stupid.anyway sorry for the experience pray for your kid and be strong nothing is impossible with God…Stay strong dear
so sad I CAN’T BELIEVE YOUR FAMILY CAN DO THAT TO YOU. SO SAD BE STRONG AND TAKE CARE. EVERY ONE IS THINKING OF YOU REALLY XX
Be strong girl, all will be well with time
I’m sorry to hear that….this is very sad story…I’m a lesbian too I don’t have parents they passed away I was young I don’t even know them I’m so lucky the one who raised me understand my asexuality
Be strong I will pray for YOur kid to get better
Hiii..I’m also a lesbian.. would u like to have relationship with me ??
I’m a lesbian….I am in love with a girl….but she doesn’t like me….and no one come to love me…..is there any one who can feel myself?
I feel u love.If she does’nt love u I do so just forget about her,i’m sure you’ll see a girl who’d give her all for u.
stay strong dear
be strong dear.am nt a lesbian but d guy am dating is double cheating on me
Be strong……I felt the same way as u Miriam. .., y r so hard to love n be love by someone as same sex accept by others! My gf left me when she got bf that’ not made for her coz that bf r married man.. called me les n left me. But trying hard to be stay strong…don’t hate her….I do wish someone wI’ll come n truly love me as I am……, , just like u Miriam got someone that love u…..hope u both will be 2gether till old!!
stay strong. i’m a lesbian as well, my family knows about it. srry to hear that u got raped as well. just stay strong, keep ur head up, and ignore the childish ppl around you. i wish u the best of luck with ur life “3
God bless u darling
Good bless you
stay strong and i am 12 years old and i am lesbian i have a crush on my best friend
just stay STRONG there will always be a rainbow at the end… i am a lesbian..i fell in love but sadly she told me that she never loved me and was only trying to be like me…yes,i am hurt and i always loved her and couldnt stop thinkinng about her…until.. the truth fell on the floor and here i am..i will one day find someone..i might have lost my bff and girlfriend but soon i will rise but with another person but not just another person but a person i love.
stay strong like a am, i am just 12 years old and i am lesbian and i have a crush on my best friend.
i also don’t like men but i unable to say anyone…..don’t know what to do……..
Be strong and be a good mom of your twins.
I am in a quest to find understaning in the Lesbian situation.Woundnt rest till I give full self understanding of the situation.Its a grt story dear.
omg i feel sad. How would they do that to u. May god bless u with ur kids
such a stong omen…i admire you…keep up the fight…hope you will succed
u r great …lots of love for u mariam..im also finding my love girl..
you’re a brave girl .if u lesbian its not your fult coz the feelings are given by Lord and its natural we like n love some one …lots of love for u.kiran
Sorry for all that but always stay strong its our nature
You are strong women! I’m going through to the same situations now. They’re forcing me to marry a men. Even though I told them I’m in love with my girl.. I hate faking myself it front of that guy!
You are very strong woman.how could your own brother planned to get you raped… is that how men “cured” a Lesbian??? With rape instead of love…
It’s funny they called you ‘a bad omen’ when they are actually the one who are bad omen. Don’t go back to them, they are bad and evil. They don’t deserve to have you as a family
I admire u u r so strong always be happy and never give up on wot u believe in fight for ur love mwah
Your story invited tears to my eyes, I am so sorry. May the good lord carry you always
Evn i loved a girl..we used to kiss each othr on cheeks, slept togethr and touchd each othr at waist passionatly..later she got a bf and called me a lesbian and left me.. We r no more togethr
hey my family are doing the same thing they hate me and my girlfriend love me but ik that when she come for my prom the dont want anything to do with me but i dont want to give up on me and my girlfriend because we been through so much * lowkey sad * but i love your story and it remind me so much of my life..
so sorry, say prayers always
You should have weighed the consequences–the benefits and detriments. In this case-you should have supported your family’s feelings by doing the following: #1). Leave the prior lesbian gf and LIE to her and say..”I don’t love u any longer”—now u have old lesban gf out of the way. #2). However, since u are a Lesbian–when the time is right-you will find a new lesbian gf or gf;’s and no one will know. #3). You will still date Males but have a reason why you don’t care for that one or this one. #4). Under cover….you still act as a Lesbian 35). In this manner–you have everyone on your side and your lies may hurt you for lying–but everyone else is happy. The loss is old lesbian gf-so what. your gain..is the love from your entire family and warmth from the two childRen. But now…doing it this way…look whay has happened…what did u accomplish for being stubborn? It is easy ror a few to criticize my answer—yet it is the finest result.
her family’s love would be true if they had Accepted her the way she is. If not that at least not plan a freaking gang rape. It shows utter irrelevance and the real sin…. making your oWn blood get raped and making her deliver children and to add to the toppings disown her and her INNOCENT children. I mean come on. We have a life. As long as she wasnt hurting anYone, things were fine. Instead they have caused sheer trauma to her physicallY and mentally.
MIriam, my heartY well wisHes are with you and your children. Im sorry to hear about what happenend. But you are strong and Brave. gooD luck :)
oh……. so sad…… but stay strong
so sad all that they did to you because their do not now how you feeling me l know any thing coz am same too but am use a medicine coz l don’t want to hurt my heart and l afraid god…..
so sad all that they did to you because their do not now how you feeling me l know any thing coz am same too but am use a medicine coz l don’t want to hurt my heart and l afraid god…..so one day god help us but an so hurting with this situation am to contro
MAY ALLAH BLESS U.
Be brave for ur two kids i know u cn pass all ur sacrifice..gogogo
Wow u really a strong woman..
we cant change even we try
its hard to be who we are as lesbians but im glad it worked out for you. keep up being brave
That’s So sad…. I can’t believe The society… Thank you for being strong and being a great MOm. God is WATCHing. Do t worry.
sorry about it…. I was speechless…. it made me cry for real because i’m a lesbian too but still in the closet…. i never told my family about it because of them saying “its bad luck, i don’t want a gay/lesbian kid, i would rather let the live in the streets than have a weird kid…. i’m turning 14 and still in the closet for like 4 years…. be strong…. i understand even though i’m still a 14 year-old kid…. i hope you get this through and stay strong…. if your family/parents/brother/father or whoever they are…. stay strong and never give up! show them your best and one day they will realize there biggest mistake in life