“It all started when I was much younger, in my early teens but it was only until I was 18 when I realized I had to deal with this feeling.

It was after dinner, and I called them around the table, and I told them I was gay. It was very dramatic, my parents took it very badly, and immediately took it the wrong way. The first year was hard for me, because it was as new for me as it was for them, and it felt as if I was walking on a tightrope with my parents. They even called our local pastor to come and bless the house, and he told my mother certain things in my house were causing me to be gay. My mother started digging out stuff from my cupboard and she threw away many of my things, including my collection of snow globes. My relationship with my family became strained, we lived in the same house but did not talk for months.

I no longer have to pretend and hide what I am feeling and doing. It was only recently that after I discovered myself, that only around last year I was comfortable with myself and I think that is my triumph.”

Commenting on the situation in Singapore he said “To my surprise a lot of people choose to never come out because of the fear of repercussion here. I feel as if there is a lack of empowerment for people like us here by the government and the community”.

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