F.J. / Jamaica
“Every time I introduce myself I am asked what I have come to refer to as the ‘Annoying Inevitable Question’: ‘What does FJ Stand for?’ the selection of a name is a critical part of the transition process of a transgender individual. This choice captures who they are, who they want to be and who they wish for others to view them.
I didn’t quite select my name as much as I opted to retain my initials. And this is particularly curious, for I was originally names such that mine would mirror my father’s: J.G. After he passes, I wanted to keep that part of him with me. This again, is an interesting choice given that we had such a tumultuous relationship. Regardless my father was the one person whom I had always wanted to be. Having not been socialized as his son however, I had to embark on a journey to discover my own version of manhood and my masculine identity. I have spent years and will continue to do so- unlearning the toxic hegemonic masculinity which we use to preach our boys and learning what being a man means to me I can only hope that the man I am, and the one I desire to be, the one I will become, would have made my father proud of me that is all I ever wanted really. So every time I get asked this annoying inevitable question, it reminds me of my journey of self-discovery, that I can define manhood in my own terms and can take comfort in knowing that even though he didn’t know, I’m my father’s son.- a thought that warms my heart.”
- J Genus